What’s meant for you won’t pass you.

We feel pressure to be the best, be the first, get there before someone else does.  This was something I felt on and off for many years in the past.  Which was not fun.  It can make you lose the excitement for your passion.  Sometimes we can forget out magic.  But after many years pursuing the passions of my heart I firmly believe that 

what’s yours won’t go to someone else. 

You’re worried that someone will take your idea at work? They won’t present it like you do.   You think someone will steal your song lyric? They won’t word it like you do. That’s the beautiful thing about tapping into your creativity; it’s you!  It’s the SUPER POWER only you have.  That’s your power.  Your mind, your creativity, your ideas.

Dr Seuss said it best, “there’s no one alive who is youer than you!” 

You can have hobbies and passions and ideas but it’s the gems that REALLY EXCITE you that matter. The ones that MOTIVATE you enough to pursue a new path; THOSE are the ones meant for you.  The ones you wake up thinking about at 2am.  AND even if someone else has the same idea, there’s ONLY ONE YOU! Anything you do has your fingerprints on it and that doesn’t change. 

Apple has Steve Jobs fingerprints on it. 

Henry Ford’s spirit is still alive and well in Ford.

Bill Gates is synonymous with Microsoft.

J.K. Rowling created an entire universe with her heartbeat as it’s life source. 

These projects wouldn’t be the world-impacting-forces that they are if they had come from someone else.  They might still be great, but they wouldn’t be the ones we know without these people behind them. 

Yes, there are collaborators for great ideas, but the person who drives the idea forward; is the one who’s fingerprints will continue on with the idea. 

That’s the magic. and YOU HAVE THAT MAGIC.

What makes you happy? What are you passionate about? Is it dancing, fishing, traveling, watching a good movie?  What brings you that bubbly feeling of joy?

So many people know what makes them happy but they don’t prioritize it!  It falls by the wayside because people end of focusing on what they think HAS to get done.  Sometimes this is true.  Especially if you’re responsible for someone else (parents I’m looking at you).  But it really doesn’t have to be this way.  A little finessing is all it takes to adjust your schedule to allow a few extra minutes a day that makeup an hour a week to dedicate to something that really makes you happy.  

When you’re comfortable with being uncomfortable this can seem really difficult.  Even if you want to make more time for your hobby or passion, you feel guilty doing it because you think you should be somewhere else.  The reality is though, that when you show up for yourself, you show up in a better way for everything else!

We all know the people who have made a change in their lives and suddenly became iron-man triathletes, or the mom who started an Etsy business, or the Disney fanatic who turned her loves of Disney into an instagram account with tons of followers who also love Disney!

This could be you! All you have to do is adjust things *slightly* to get a little more time for yourself.  By allowing your passions to come out I promise you won’t feel guilty, in fact, you’ll be setting an example for everyone else who’s letting the things they love in life pass them by.

There was a time in MY PAST when I was very angry. 

Many things were out of my CONTROL and it was a difficult time as I transitioned from adolescence to ADULTHOOD.  However, it was a time of great personal GROWTH and REFLECTION.  I spent a lot of time learning and UNDERSTANDING my own feelings and other peoples, and interpersonal interactions.  I also LEARNED a lot about how mental illness affects not only the person afflicted but it can also affect those of us who are around people with a mental illness.  It can affect your power…if you let it.

What it really helped me when realized no one can take your power. But if you get into a situation where your WILLING to use your personal power as a bargaining chip then you can end up feeling like someone else took your power, but really you gave it up hoping for something in exchange. Love, ACCEPTANCE, friendship. Or to get away from something loneliness, unhappiness, stress. But FEELING powerless can start a spiral. It can really send you to a dark place because you don’t feel in control of your own life even though you still are. 

The GREAT NEWS is you can take your power back whenever you choose and you can do it in an INSTANT.  You can leave a group of FRIENDS that is a bad influence and when you do you will have realized your self worth and a better group of friends will find you. You can leave an abusive relationship and that freedom will feel like seeing the sun for the first time once you’re free. 

Three things you can do right now to take your power back:

1. Decide what you want. What brings you happiness? What kind of life do you want to live? You have a choice, you can choose!
2. Align yourself with good people.  Everyone has one good person in their life – an aunt, a neighbor, a brother.  Spend time with people who build you up.
3. Stop spending time with people you know are not good for you.  This one is hard. But it has to be done to take your power back!

Don’t let someone else turn you into something you’re not.  You can decide at any moment to take your power back and do or becoming something different.