Happy Independence Day America!
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Diversity
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Free Speech
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Inclusivity
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Free to be You and Me
I’ve heard people refer to themselves as broken. Which always makes me sad because people are not broken. They may need help, they may have shortcomings, but that’s just imperfect perfection. It does NOT mean you’re broken…it means you’re HUMAN!
I think people call a heart broken when it aches, but it’s actually more like the pain you feel when you really hurt yourself and the pain is so intense it doesn’t register right away. It’s a slow rising brutal ache. But it’s not a break.
Your spirit can’t be broken. It can be changed. You might feel broken. But it’s really kintsugi. Kintsugi is the Japanese art of golden repair. If a bowl breaks it is repaired with a gold filing to bind the pieces back together. This is you. When something “breaks” you your spirit has the magic of kintsugi inside and it can fill you with gold too. Youll be even more than you were before, you have new golden magic sewn into your story.
So you can carry your “broken pieces” around with you cradling them in your arms forevermore or you can let your self love and your spirit do what it does naturally; take your experiences and spin them into gold to add to your being.
The pain is just the opening where the golden light gets in.
I think the music we listen to really matters, and that we should only be putting good thoughts in our minds! These are some of my favorite songs to listen to when I might need a reminder to keep a positive attitude. What better way to show you what I’m talking about than the share the songs with you! Every one can use a pick me up, especially half way through the work week! So here are 10 songs that I love to listen to to remind me of who I am and what I can do.
I hope it does the same thing for you!
Pick me up playlist
Many things were out of my CONTROL and it was a difficult time as I transitioned from adolescence to ADULTHOOD. However, it was a time of great personal GROWTH and REFLECTION. I spent a lot of time learning and UNDERSTANDING my own feelings and other peoples, and interpersonal interactions. I also LEARNED a lot about how mental illness affects not only the person afflicted but it can also affect those of us who are around people with a mental illness. It can affect your power…if you let it.
What it really helped me when realized no one can take your power. But if you get into a situation where your WILLING to use your personal power as a bargaining chip then you can end up feeling like someone else took your power, but really you gave it up hoping for something in exchange. Love, ACCEPTANCE, friendship. Or to get away from something loneliness, unhappiness, stress. But FEELING powerless can start a spiral. It can really send you to a dark place because you don’t feel in control of your own life even though you still are.
The GREAT NEWS is you can take your power back whenever you choose and you can do it in an INSTANT. You can leave a group of FRIENDS that is a bad influence and when you do you will have realized your self worth and a better group of friends will find you. You can leave an abusive relationship and that freedom will feel like seeing the sun for the first time once you’re free.
Three things you can do right now to take your power back:
Don’t let someone else turn you into something you’re not. You can decide at any moment to take your power back and do or becoming something different.
Sometimes I forget to take time to slow down and appreciate the little things that I really enjoy and that bring me happiness. And there are so many! But sometimes I just get wrapped up in whatever else I have going on and I totally forget to just enjoy the moment. Especially when it comes to documenting for social media (and memories).
Sometimes I feel guilty about it! Either way! If I’m not documenting I have fomo that I’ll regret not capturing the moment, and other times I feel regret if I’m not putting my camera down and taking in the moment!
What I’ve come to realize is, it’s all about balance. Take the photo and then spend another 10 minutes (or however long) just enjoying the experience. I often think I’m in much more of a hurry than I actually am. I feel a sense of anxiousness to “get on to the next thing”. But if I rush off to the next thing I can end up feeling like I didn’t really experience it. So I’m working on slowing down to actually enjoy the moment not just document it.
This was the case (and often was) when I visited somewhere and I’m only there for a short time. Recently we spent just a few hours in Quebec City between travels. I loved the city and didn’t want to miss any of it, but I also didn’t want to feel like I spent the entire time taking photos. So instead, I balanced the time we had there with taking in the history and beauty and also capturing it.
Next time you start to feel like you’re living for a social media post or “the perfect shot” just take a step back. Life is meant to be lived, and the truly perfect shots happen in a moment. Don’t sacrifice every moment in your life trying to instagram it. Look up, look around, and take it all in, and then if you need to, take a moment to capture the moment.